TEMPLE
WEDDING DO LIST
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© 2004
Planning and executing your plans for your
wedding will be one of the hardest things you have ever done.
It is because you are trying to please two sets of parents your
fiancée and yourself and get it all done within budget and time.
You must get everything to coordinate harmoniously and to happen all at
the same time. This scenario is a
major set up for monster problems and stress.
It has lead many of wedding candidates to rethink getting married,
because the stress becomes so unbearable.
To cope see and use: Coping
Skills
If you do not already know for sure that
this guy or gal is the one, then make it a matter of prayer to find out.
See the article: How
to Make Good Decisions
After you know that this is the right person for you, the next best thing you can do to reduce stress is get organized. This is what the do list is all about. It removes some of the surprises and gives you the next step to take.
Be sure not to procrastinate, but instead
do a s many of the things as you can as soon as possible.
The later you wait to do these things, the more limited your choices
become and the greater the problems and stress.
I wish you well in your journey.
Best wishes,
Annette Nay, MS
Reserving Your Temple Date
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Agree upon a wedding date.
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Which temple will you be sealed
in?
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How many people do you expect
will attend the temple with you? Get
a room that will accommodate that many! Round figure up not down!
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Do you want your guests in
their temple clothes (a white sealing) or is street clothes acceptable?
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Are you doing your endowment
just before the sealing or the night before?
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Call the temple and reserve:
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Your sealing date, time, and
room
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When you will take out your
endowment.
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Whether it is white sealing or
guest will wear street clothes.
Talk to your Bishop
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Both of you talk with
your bishop about the wedding date.
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Find out when you should make
your ward and stake appointment for your temple recommend.
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Do Bishop Check-ins &
Lessons
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Make ward and stake
appointments for your temple recommend.
Reserving a Place for the Reception
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Where will you have your
reception or open house?
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When will it be?
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What are the guidelines for
using the place?
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If it is in a LDS church, be
sure to reserve all areas you will be using.
Ex: The Relief Society
Room or Cultural Hall/Gym & the Kitchen.
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Reserve the place for the time
you will need it for: set-up, the
wedding, & reception.
Deciding the Attire for the Wedding
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Decide on the wedding colors
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Decide colors for the dress of
the mothers, groom, groomsmen, and bride’s maids
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Go to a hardware store and
obtain a paint chip sample for everyone who needs the exact color for your
wedding.
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Find & purchase/rent your
wedding dress. Include:
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Comfortable shoes: white sneakers or house slippers – Flat
shoes
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Veil head piece
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Necklace and earrings
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Garter?
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Assign others or you get
bridesmaids dresses & mother’s dresses
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Decide if suits or tuxes will
be used for the following:
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Groom & Groomsmen
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Father of the Bride &
Father-In-Law to be
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Reserve the tuxes/suits for
groom, groomsmen, & father of the bride & father-in-law
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Pick up the suits/tuxes – The
groom is responsible for this expenditure.
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Tradition:
For good luck find:
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Something Old
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Something New
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Something Borrowed
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Something Blue
The Rings
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Shop for rings
q Order wedding rings & engraving
q Pick up the rings
Engagement & Wedding/Reception Photos
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Assign a friend or family
member to take the pictures for the announcement and wedding or engage a
photographer?
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Make photographer list of
pictures you want taken
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Buy film for pictures if a
friend or family member is taking the pictures.
q Possible places to take the announcement pictures in Southern Utah are:
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Zion’s Emerald Pools?
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Fingers of Kolob
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Ghost town
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Old barn
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Red Cliffs
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A photo studio
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A backdrop in your own home
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What will you wear for the
announcement pictures?
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Take the announcement pictures.
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Choose the picture for your
announcement.
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Order pictures from the
photographer or get a picture made from your negatives or scan your favorite
and include it as part of the announcement when printing the announcement
yourself.
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Pick up the pictures
Ordering Announcements/Thank You Cards/ Napkins
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Get addresses and names for
announcements from the bride and groom.
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Who gets to come to the
ceremony? Who gets to come to the
reception? How many for each?
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Decide on the type of
announcement you want.
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Do you want inclusion cards for
the people invited to the wedding ceremony or a whole different card from
those attending only the reception?
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Decide on and order
announcements & inclusion cards. Get the envelopes to address. - OR- You
can buy stationary & envelopes and you print them yourself along with the
inclusion cards.
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Get napkins in your colors or
just white –OR- order napkins with your names on them in your colors?
Buy or order them.
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Order thank you cards, or buy them, or print them yourself
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Pick up your orders: announcements, inclusion cards,
napkins, and/or thank you cards.
Getting the Announcement Ready for Mailing
q Divide the groom’s & bride’s list into two parts:
o Those who are invited to the wedding & reception
o Those who are invited to the reception
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Print the envelopes on the
computer.
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Do maps and directions for
out-of-town guests.
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Call in-town hotels and get
group rates for out of town guests.
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Include hotel and city info
in the announcement for out of town guests.
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Buy stamps for announcements
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Stamp envelopes
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Stuff the envelopes with the
announcement, inclusion cards for wedding &/or rehearsal dinner, maps
& hotel information, as needed.
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Mail announcements – One
Month Before the Wedding Date
Flower Arrangements
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Are you going to make your own
flowers or have them made?
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Decide what flowers arrangement
do you need?
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The Bride is responsible for:
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Bridal bouquet
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Mother’s corsages
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Maid/s or Matron of Honor
corsages
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Table centerpieces for
reception
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Flowers on the aisle seats for
the wedding
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Any other floral arrangements
for the wedding area
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The Groom is responsible for:
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Grooms & Best Man
Boutonnières
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The Father’s Boutonnières
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Order the flowers you will
need.
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Pick-up flowers and refrigerate
and/or take to set-up
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Make up your floral corsages,
boutonnières, & arrangements the day before the wedding.
The Wedding Cake
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Decide whether to make or buy
your wedding cake.
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What do you want it to look
like?
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What flavor cake?
Chocolate, Raspberry, Strawberry
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What kind of icing?
Shortening, cream cheese based or white chocolate fondant?
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If buying your cake – Order
it!
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Choose & purchase a Cake
Topper
q If you are doing your own cake - make the wedding cake & freeze it – 1 week before wedding.
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Start the decoration of the
wedding cake –5 days before wedding.
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Between working times cover the
cake and put it back in the freezer.
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Make the perfect-fit cake cover
out of coat hangers and cover with plastic wrap and packing tape.
Food for the Reception
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Are you catering the food for
your own reception or getting someone else to do it?
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If you are having it catered
– engage a caterer.
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Decide what you will have
served.
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If you are catering it yourself
– figure out:
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When the food will be made?
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Who will help?
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Who will buy the food?
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Where you put the food
together?
For Your Wedding Day
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Arrange for a day of wedding errand runner –A friend for
last minute details.
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Are you going to have your hair
done? Make hairdresser
appointment.
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Break in bridal shoes - Wear them around house
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Decide where you will dress for
the wedding- at home or at the wedding place.
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Pack
your honeymoon suitcase and take it with you.
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Set out the clothes you will
change into when you leave the reception to go on your honeymoon.
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Pick up the tux the day before
the wedding or the day of.
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Decide how you will get to the
church the day of the wedding.
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Buy garments and temple clothes.
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Buy a bag for your temple
clothes, shoes, and garments.
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Tear Alert: Put
tissues in your dress sleeve. You
will need them for the sealing.
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Get to the temple on time!
Better yet…get there early!
The Rehearsal Dinner
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Since there is no rehearsal,
there is not rehearsal dinner –per say, but many brides and grooms take this
time to get both families together for a luncheon somewhere, after the
sealing, temple grounds & family pictures are taken.
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The groom’s family is
responsible for the dinner and its cost.
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If you have one, decide when it
should be
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Who should attend
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Where it will be held
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Find out who can attend –
RSVP on inclusion cards in the announcements
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Make reservations for the place
and food served.
The Reception
Planning Stage
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Visit the reception site.
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Decide and sketch the way
things will be set up in each allotted space. Include:
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Dimensions of each area
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The receiving line area &
backdrop
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Decorations, plants, &
lights etc.
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The serving table – Best set
near the kitchen.
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The gift table
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The guest book table –
Usually set outside the door to the reception hall.
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The cake table
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Guest tables
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Where the musicians or music
will set up. Check for electrical
outlets
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Dancing area, if applicable
Rented or Borrowed Items
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Tables
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Linens
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Table centerpieces
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Backdrop
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Greenery
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Other things
Note:
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No lit candles allowed in the
LDS church!
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Churches often have tables and
linen you may be able to borrow!
The Set-Up
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Who will set up for the
reception and decorate wedding area?
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Who is supervising your plans?
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When is the set-up? (From when
to when)
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Who has the keys to the
building?
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How will the rented and/or
borrowed items get to the reception/wedding place
The Wedding & Reception Music
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Are you having taped or live
music at the reception & wedding?
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If the music is live - engage
the musicians.
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If it is taped, tape your music now or assign that to someone.
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Give a song
list with do's and don'ts
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State when they should be
there, where they should set-up, and when they should play what.
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Will there be dancing?
If so, where and when?
Helpers at the Reception
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Assign who will serve the food.
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Assign usher duty.
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Assign someone to sit at the
guest book or decide to leave it unattended.
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Assign someone to take gifts.
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Where are the gifts to be put
at the reception?
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Do you want the presents to be
left wrapped or be unwrapped with cards firmly attached, at the reception?
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Buy tape to affix cards to the
packages; whether the packages are left wrapped or not.
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Give the tape to the gift taker
with your instructions.
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Choose gifts for bridesmaids & groomsmen, ushers, guest
book sitter, servers, gift receiver, who fixed and ran taped music, set-up and
clean-up crews.
The Clean-Up
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Arrange
for your wedding dress to be cleaned.
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Arrange
for the bride’s bouquet to be preserved.
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Arrange
for the top of the wedding cake to be
properly frozen for your 1 year anniversary.
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Where does the rest of the cake
go?
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Assign who will return the
tuxes?
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Assign who will clean-up after
the reception? State what needs
to be done:
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Vacuuming & where the
vacuum is
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Sweeping & where the brooms
& dust pan are
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Cleaning off tables & where
the linens and centerpieces should go
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Cleaning and folding linens
& where they should go
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Who will clean and return
borrowed or rented things?
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Where are the gifts to be put
after the reception?
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Where the tables and chairs go
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Where centerpieces and floral
arrangements go?
Note:
Centerpieces & floral arrangements can be used as gifts for your
helpers.
Other Important Things to Shop For or Get
q Get marriage license from County Clerks Office
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The County Clerks
Office for Iron County-Utah is:
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68 South 100 East,
Parowan, UT 477-8340
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Open 8:30 AM -5 PM,
Monday-Friday
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Bride & groom
must be present with picture id (Driver’s License)
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$50
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The license is good for 30 days
q Find out when your picture and wedding announcement and what the requirements are.
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Here are the requirements to have a wedding announcement in St. George, UT's
Daily News:
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It is due the Wednesday before the Sunday you want
the picture in the paper.
o Bring in picture and fill in info. – The ad is free.
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A Guest Book
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Ribbon & Cake Knife &
Server
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An Apartment
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When you move your things in?
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Reserve honeymoon destination
& lodgings.
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Reserve wedding night lodgings
if different from the destination.
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Shop for your sweetheart’s
wedding present
q Shop for the wedding night bedroom apparel & condoms
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Take dance lessons if desired
After the Honeymoon
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Open your
gifts.
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Do thank you
cards.
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Send thank
you cards before one month has passed, since the wedding.
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Do name
change paperwork for license, banks, Social Security #, checking, checks, etc.
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Get a
renters/homeowners insurance policy
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Make sure
homeowner's insurance covers ring/gifts
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Also may want
to check into life insurance policies
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Check & change auto insurance policies
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Get medical & dental insurance
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