Teens & Self Esteem

Annette Nay, Ph.D.

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Making Correct Choices

It is a wonder that teens come through early adulthood with any self-esteem at all.  Teens who were idolized are has-beens as they graduate from high school.  Those where were not in the “in-crowd” were constantly put-down. 

Parents who often work outside the home, are hard pressed to find time to tell their teen that they are proud of every small triumphant in their school work and other positive steps they take.   They are so happy that their child is not doing drugs, crimes, or getting drunk or pregnant, that they forget to tell them that they are proud of them for not making the negative choices that could ruin or even end their lives.  

Teens are often left to fend for themselves.  They have to choose to do their homework, because no one is there to make sure it gets done, but them.  They have to choose good friends, so they don’t end up doing things that will limit their choices in the future.  So many choices to choose from, that it is hard to know what is right.

Teens, there is someone who wants you to make the right choices.  He is there to help you to understand what those are.  He is there, if asked, to help you achieve the positive, good things in your life.  He is God.  He is real and is ready to help you, now.

That right!  YOU are so important to Him, that He has dedicated His life in trying to help you get through yours.  All you have to do is ask.  Find out how, by reading the following article:    Click here:  How to Make Good Decisions

If God is in your corner, you don’t need your peers to tell you how great you are.  You don’t have to make bad choices, just because that is what the crowd is doing.  With God around as your friend, you know when it is time to bail, before things get bad. 

Open your day with prayer.  Ask God to be with you throughout your day.  Don’t end your prayer, instead just keep Him with you, so you can make the right decisions.  Make Him your companion.  Discuss things with Him as you go through your day. 

As you take an interest in Him, He actually believes you care, and He takes a more active, caring role in your life.  He is the kind of friend you really want to be with.  He will not sell you out or tell you to do wrong things.  When decisions must be made, He can tell you what you should do.   Click here à   Tapping Into a Greater Strength

If you feel you are not the type of person that God would be comfortable spending time with or visa-versa, then change who you are, inside.  You must be comfortable in your own skin.  You have to like who you are inside.  If you like yourself, it doesn’t matter who else does or doesn’t like you.  The world is a different place if you like who you are.

Becoming the Person You Want to Be

How can you become that person?  Fake it ‘til you make it!  Pretend that you already have a quality that you want and act as if you already are that way.  Watch people who already posses that quality and be like them. 

Self-esteem comes from building on each of your successes to reach for the next goal.  Set reachable goals and obtain them.  Feel that success and begin again to reach for the next goal. 

Here are some articles that can help you gain control of your life, so you can become the person you want to be and along the way, gain self-esteem.

Click here à  How to Set Goals and Attain Them

Making Changes In Your Life

Seeking Self-Control

The Importance of Good Company

How To Acquire Good Friends

Stop Trashing Yourself

Don't Let the Garbage Man Dump His Garbage on You

Reprogramming Subconscious Negative Thoughts

Coping Skills

20 Time Management Ideas

A Relaxation Exercise to Reduce Stress

How to be a Good Student

How a Youth Can Become a Good Student

Keeping Your Life In Balance

Boundary Setting

Whatever it is that you are trying to change, set realistic goals and do your best.  Your best today may not be the same as yesterday, do to lack of sleep, illness, stress, etc.  When things are out of your control, you are not responsible for them.  When you do your best, you can always be proud or yourself.  No one can expect more from you; not others, not you, not even God.  So, don’t put yourself down, instead see and celebrate what you’ve done that was good.  Celebrate every positive step.

Annette Nay, Ph.D.

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