Based on June 1999 Visiting Teaching Message
Annette Nay, Ph.D.
Copyright © 1999
Why You are Here
You were sent to earth to:
Stopping Bad Habits & Behaviors from Starting
Self-control starts with schooling your thoughts.
"...for so he thinketh in his heart so is he." Proverbs 23:7
The next step in self-control is to avoid the very appearance of evil. 1Thessalonians 5:22
Practicing these two steps keeps you from forming bad habits and engaging in bad behaviors.
Stopping Old Unwanted Habits and Behaviors
If you find yourself with unhealthy behaviors either mentally or physically, or in an addiction, which leaves you enslaved, you need help to overcome them.
Help may take the form of:
Serving Others Before Yourself
This behavior is needed for you to gain self-control and to become the kind of service oriented person you need to be, but this can be taken to extremes also. You may find that you get so busy helping others that you forget that you must take care of yourself, too. You must get proper rest, food, and exercise before you can healthfully care for the needs of others.
Forgiving others is another behavior that you need to succeed at to gain self-control. This is not only those individuals who ask for forgiveness, but also those who are not worthy of your forgiveness. The Lord states that you must forgive individuals who trespass against you and even thought they have no regret for causing you pain. This is for your own edification. You need to get the pain and anger out of your heart for healthful living, both mentally and physically.
Self-Control is Often Learned from the School of Hard Knocks
Your path to perfection is never a perfect one. You will fail at times and have to pick up the pieces and try again. Your failures mean that you need to repent. Hopefully, you will gain wisdom from your failures and learn self-control in that area, so you can be happy. Wisdom gained from the school of hard knocks is not only valuable to you, unless you choose to share that wisdom with others.
The school of hard knocks can hand you some pretty hard setbacks. Often you will hear others saying, "I should have known." "What's wrong with me." "How stupid of me." For years they browbeat themselves until there is little or nothing left of their self-esteem. With little or no self-esteem, a person's ability to succeed is diminished to such a point that they cannot gain self-control, because they believe that it is impossible, and are unable to even try.
You must be able to forgive yourself and start again!
Your eternal life depends upon it!
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