A Parent's Guide for Raising Children
Annette Nay, Ph.D.
Copyright © 1999
Use the Gospel in Your Home
- To strengthen your family you must have the spirit of the Lord
in your home.
- Through the power of the Melchizedek Priesthood, dedicate your
- Pray daily with your children.
- Read the scriptures together.
- Hold Family Home Evening each week.
- Make sure your children to know how to get answers to prayers.
Make opportunities for children to make decisions and to ask the
Lord if they are correct.
- Use added love and support to reinforce your teachings on how to
make choice. Read the church magazines with your children.
- Share your spiritual feelings and testimony with your family.
- Fill your homes with the sounds of worth music.
- Teach children the significance of baptism, confirmation,
partaking of the sacrament, honoring the priesthood, making and
keeping temple covenants.
- Teach your children the importance of living worthy of a temple
recommend and preparing for a temple marriage.
- Prepare your children and your extended family with an
understanding of the temple.
- The goal for your family is to be on the straight and narrow
- Parents be an example to your children.
Council with Your Family
- Hold family councils to discuss plans and concerns.
- Council one-on-one with family members.
- Spend individual time with your children.
- See my article on the Family
Intervention and Stating Family Values
- It is the parents duty to intervene when they see their children
making mistakes. Teach appropriate behavior and consequences.
- There is no such thing as unlawful censorship in the home. Only
appropriate music, videos, TV shows, magazines and other media are
- Talk to your children's teachers, coaches, counselors, advisors,
and Church leaders about concerns and needs of your children
Structure Children's Spare Time
- Know what your children are doing in their spare time. If they
are on the Internet, know what they are doing.
- Influence your children's choice of movies, television programs,
- Help your children see the importance of wholesome
Your Child's Friends are Important
- Help your children build good friendships.
- Make your children's friends welcome in your home.
Develop Family Togetherness
- Make your home a place where each family member feels loved and
a sense of belonging.
- Communicate with each other.
- Eat together as a family, whenever possible.
- Work together as a family. Talk together as you work.
- Build family traditions.
- Plan and carry out meaningful vacations together, considering
your children's needs, talents, and abilities.
- Create happy memories with your children.
- Teach your children about their family history and ancestors.
Prepare Your Child for the Future
- Help your children learn self-reliance and the importance of
preparing for the future.
- Help your children develop their talents and build their
- Help your children realize the importance of education and
preparing for employment and self-sufficiency.
- Help your children with their homework.
- Show your children how to budget time and resources by your
- Use outside resources wisely to strengthen your family.
- Encourage worthwhile school activities for your children.
Handling Wayward Children
- When our teenagers begin testing family values, you need to go
to the Lord for guidance on the specific needs of each child.
- Pray for careless and disobedient children. Hold on to them with
your faith, until you see the salvation of God in their behalf.
- Your children need to know, like the prodigal's son, when they
come to themselves they can turn to us for love and counsel.
- Avoid spoiling your children by giving them too much.
When a Child's Intolerable Behavior Necessitates
His/Her Leaving the Home
The Ensign states that never, out of anger, are parents to lock the
door, or your home, or your heart to your children. I agree with this,
but realize there are situations that warrant a child's expulsion from
the family and their domicile. This is due to violence or continuous
behavior directly opposing family values. Once the behavior has changed
the child should be allowed back into the home. Never should the child
be locked out of your hearts. Your love should be unconditional.
Remember the child is always wanted, the intolerable behavior is not!
Prayers should always be raised up in his/her behalf for a change of
heart and behavior.
May 1999 Ensign