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Making Good Decisions
Annette Nay, PhD
Copyright 2000

People who have long-term or terminal illness often have to make a series of important decisions at a time that it may be highly difficult to do so. Some people give-up in despair and allow their physicians or significant other make the decisions for them. This is not always in the best interest of that person. Unforeseen occurrences could effect the decision-making or perhaps the standard way of doing things is not the right way at this time. How then can one, who is under stress, make the correct decision for himself/herself at this time? Here is a tried and true method that will always bring about the correct decision.


  1. Take a piece of paper and draw a vertical line down the middle of the sheet making two columns.
  2. On the top of the first column, write "Pro's." These are the positive things about the issue.
  3. On the top of the second column write "Con's." These are the negative things about the issue.
  4. Ask the Lord to help you list all the items dealing with this issue. Now, list all the items about the issue under the appropriate column.
  5. Ask the Lord to help you to understand the importance of each item listed by assigning it a fair numeric value. Giving an item a "ten" means that it is of the utmost importance. Assigning it a "one" means that it has little or no importance. A "five," of course means, that it is middle of the road; not extremely important, but not unimportant either. Now, assign each item a value.
  6. Add up the numeric value of each item, in each column, to see which has the most important items listed. The one with the higher value means more to you and should give you your decision. Now that you have studied it out in your mind, ask God if your decision is correct.
    • A "Yes" answer is a burning of the bosom or a warm swelling feeling in the chest area accompanied with a feeling of peace or a feeling that all is well or right.
    • A "No" answer is a stupor of thought or a dull cloudy feeling in your head. Your thoughts are hard to hold on to or disappear.
    • Moroni 10: 4-5: ". . . and if ye shall ask with a sincere heart, with real intent, having faith in Christ, He will manifest the truth of it unto you, by the power of the Holy Ghost. And by the power of the Holy Ghost ye may know the truth of all things.
  7. Now, ask the Lord to help you do what you must to put your decision to work. This may take a great deal of planning. Do it now.
  8. Activate your plan and put your decision to work.
    • James 2:20 ". . . faith without works is dead.


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