Frame issues in terms of the issues or relationship
between the parties rather than in terms of a person's attitude or behavior.
Wrong: Let's talk about your negative attitude to
anything we propose.
Better: Let's talk about how we can evaluate proposals
Frame issues so they cannot be answered in a "yes
" or "no" manner.
Wrong: Should the staff have three additional days
off.
Better: What do you think about the issue of days off.
Frame issues as questions or problem statements.
Ex: "How can we......?" Or "What can be
done to.......?"
Frame issues so that multiple solutions are possible.
Wrong: Who will have use of the school car?
Better: Let's talk about the issue of transportation
needs.
Separate issues or problems from people. De-personalize
the conflict.
Wrong: Let's talk about John's exploiting the
grievance procedure.
Better: Let's talk about making the grievance
procedure more effective.
Frame issues so that they are joint problems.
Wrong: How can the administration better inform
teachers about policy change.
Better: How can we improve the communication process
when there are policy changes.
Frame issues in terms of future relationships rather than
past guilt or innocence.
Wrong: Could we decide who was at fault for the
impasse in our last negotiations?
Better: Could we discuss how to develop a procedure
for negotiations that can avoid impasse?
Frame issues within areas where people have authority and
resources to make a decision and have it implemented.
Ex.: The issue of inadequate state support for
education cannot ease an issue in negotiations.
Frame issues in a manner that does not threaten any
party's sense of self or dignity.
Wrong: Let's talk about the insensitive way the
principle gives criticism.
Better: Let's talk about the feedback process between
the principal and the teachers.
Frame issues in an objective and neutral manner.
Frame issues in specific terms.
Bread up broader issues into more easily handled
sub-issues.
Wrong: Let's talk about the school board-teacher's
union relationship.
Better: Let's talk about the contract negotiation
process, union participation, open school board meetings, and
union-school board communication between negations.
Frame issues so as to encourage creative problem solving.
Frame issues as briefly as possible.
Ask the parties to confirm that the framing of the problem
is accurate.
References
Based on the work of H. Gadlin
Cloke, Kenneth, (1990) Mediation:
Revenge and the Magic of Forgiveness, Center for
Dispute Resolution, Santa Monica, CA