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Where are Your Priorities?
With the fast pace of our lives, it is important that we make time work for us and not allow it to get away from us. We all have beaten ourselves up over all the should-haves and could-haves that we have slip through our hands. Many times this happens because we fail to plan and we do not have a good perspective to guide our daily lives. We allow the needs of the day and the wants of others direct our lives.
Our lives must keep a perspective of those things that should come first in our lives. To keep your life in perspective, use the five finger priority method.
Many times we fill our lives with too many things from the last three items on the priority list and seldom take care of the first two. We must take time to replenish our spirituality by communing with God, reading the scriptures, and surrounding ourselves with uplifting music and other good literature and activities. There must also be time to exercise and have a good diet.
You should never put off taking care of yourself. It never happens! Instead, make it a priority. You need time to replenish yourself through relaxation or play time. This may be relaxing while watching the sunrise or set, painting a picture, taking a class, or reading a favorite book for just a few minutes per day.
When we replenish ourselves we are ready to tackle the day, help others, and do our best. We are unwise to think we can do well at anything, if we have not taken care of the first two priorities on our list.
When you're the best you can be, with all that life throws at you, no one, not even yourself can expect more. That is a hard lesson to learn. Many people, no matter how hard they try, feel that they should have done better. They should have foreseen the future and stopped unwanted events from happening. This is not possible. It is possible, however, to manage our day to eliminate many failures from happening.
When we fail to plan, we plan to fail.
Since your time is valuable, you cannot afford to fumble around wondering what you should do next. Make three lists . . .
Before you go to bed, make a tentative list of what needs to be accomplish tomorrow. The list should include time with God. This means exercise, good diet, and free time to breathe for you. Time for family is a must. Then add in the “must-dos” of the day and some of the “need-to-dos” to fill in the rest of the time.
Remember that you do not have to wait until the last minute to accomplish the “must-dos” in your life. Procrastination will kill you. With a little planning, you can do a little over-time on projects and get them done on time, without all the stress of the last minute. No one performs their best under stress.
By small things great things may be accomplished!
By marking all the must-dos on a calendar, you can see at a glance, the days in your life that will be too full. By planning ahead, you can move items back or forward to less full days. If this is not possible then do ahead what can be done to elevate the stuffed days. When this is not possible, then prioritize what really needs to be done by you. Delegate the rest to other people.
When you have a calendar of events for your life, you will be less likely to take on more than you can manage. You can finally say, "No, my schedule will not allow that this week." In this way you will know that you are doing your best and have no reason to feel guilty for saying, "No!." When you are doing your best, no one, not even yourself, can expect more of you. In this way you will not be allowed to beat up yourself over the “should-have-beens” or “could-have-beens.” You will be managing your life not allowing fate or others to do it for you.
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